I’m 18 years old, almost done with my first year of college and I’ve got two more years left! I’ve made amazing friends in the the last one year – some totally new people and some people who were always around but I never really realized how special they were! I know that two years from now all of us will be entering completely new worlds and while some pursue higher education, others will start working! Most of us will leave our hometown and venture into the world. Obviously this process of settling down takes years! And while we are busy trying to find a foothold in the enormous mountain of life which we set out to climb, we will have little or no time for friends! I have seen this in other people’s lives and from a long time I had been convincing myself that the same would happen to me. Up till a year ago, I was sure that these friends that I would make in college would be with me only for a period of 3 years and I had no issue with it. But as the clock ticked and that moment drew closer, I started fretting over the fact that I have very limited time with these people! I didn’t want the days to fly by and I didn’t want that day to arrive when I would have to say goodbye. I would stay up late into the night thinking about that day and more than often, there would be tears in my eyes. I didn’t want my prediction to come true; the prediction being that once you are thrust into the outside world, you will not have space for friends in your life. So I was in a point in my life where I was desperately trying to cling on to something important, but the more I held on – the faster it slipped away.
Then last night I went out for dinner with my family and on the adjacent table sat a woman who was approximately 60 years of age. She kept looking at her watch and I wondered who she was waiting for. Around 20 minutes later three other women walked in and when the four of them saw each other they were laughing and screaming and hugging each other! For that one moment when they saw each other they all looked beautifully young. As I observed them talking animatedly, it became obvious that these were bffs who went really long back! I could practically see 16 year olds talking among themselves in these 60 year old women.
That bunch of women gave me hope. They showed me that friendship could last – literally forever! I do not know who those women were, where they lived or how often they saw each other or what the situation was exactly, but I did see friendship in them! A sweet and loving friendship. I could see me and my girls sitting at that table a few decades from now. This might be a very silly thing to take inspiration from, but it did inspire me nevertheless. It inspired me to stop thinking about how to deal with moving away from my friends and to start thinking about ways to keep in touch. I do not know how much I love my girls or why I love them but I do know that I want them to be a part of my life forever! I’m going to enjoy the next two years as much as I can and hopefully after that we’ll be as close as ever.
I’ll find out about that two year’s from now – so I won’t continue to fret over it! For now I just want to believe in a different kind of ‘and they lived happily ever after.. ‘ These are my girls – the ones I’ve known for a really long time now and the ones who probably know me the best!
And while these might be my besties there are so many others I do not want to lose!
Those people who make you feel good when your not, those people who turn everything from imperfect to simply perfect, those people whom you begin to miss even though it’s been just a while since you’ll parted , yeah , they are friends and I have got amazing ones! you guys are the best gift ever!
(courtesy – Deepika Vasani)
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facebook has changed the meaning of friendship for all of us. if we are friends with a person on face book it means we are still in contact, because we like each other’s statuses – irrespective of the fact that we cannot remember their faces!! i had 500 odd friends on facebook and i didn’t even know over 100 of them. among the others i couldn’t remember the last time i spoke to most of them and there were very few people who i actually maintained contact with. then what is the point of maintaining “facebook” reltionships with everyone?? what kind of an unrealistic world are we living in where facebook means more than friendship?? yes, facebook is necessary sometimes, when i want to see my far off family and friends ( the one’s whom i actually care about) and the rest are just there for – well, i don’t even know why they are there. after around two years of wasting time on facebook, i almost deleted my account, but then i realized that there were a lot of people i couldn’t keep in contact with other than facebook, so i just deleted the ones who didn’t matter. and it felt so fricking good!! it’s like this heavy weight of pretense has been lifted from my chest and i can finally breathe!! (albeit cyber breathing ) maybe its time we take a step back from social networking and look at our real lives and the real people in it!!
omg!! i just found one of my old diaries and here are the things that i found in there.
they may be cheesy (very VERY cheesy) but somewhere, somehow in the words of a 14 year old i have described things that i still feel..
WARNING: do not laugh at this. yu will be hurting 14 year old me by doing that. remember those were my very frist experiments with writing and i was still a bit loose and unorganized.
why do people wear masks and conceal their true faces?
why do they all bask in the glory of hurting someone?
they act like very good friends
but they stab you in the back later.
breaking hearts is now among the latest trends.
we often see teardrops falling from eyes.
misunderstandings are common,
they rip people apart!
close friends trust each other no more
oh! i hate this to the core.
i wish people would be their true selves,
then friendship would bloom way better in this world!
i hope to see smiles on faces,
of enemity let there be no more traces!!
Posted in from my heart
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secrets are like investments. According to wikipedia “An investment involves the choice by an individual or an organization after some analysis or thought, to place money in an asset that has certain level of risk and provides the possibility of generating returns over a period of time.” Secrets are exactly like that. We choose to invest in certain assets. By this i mean we choose to invest our secrts in certain people. And by investing I mean trust. Based on the number of secrets we tell a particular person and how well they keep it, we can see exactly how trustworthy a person is. We scrutinize our potential investments carefully, look into all the probable risks and then put our money in the best possible option. It is the same with secrets. We contemplate whether or not we should tell certain people about them, whether that person is trustworthy or not, whether it is a risk and whether or not we will get something good out of it. The very fact that we share a certain secret with a person shows trust. It shows us that we are interested in dealing with that particular commodity; i.e we are interested in maintaining close contact with that particular person.
We invest our secrets very carefully, based on which time would be best for us to disclose our secrets and which person would be more beneficial to us, in sorting out certain problems related to the secret. We play our cards carefully so that we do not have to regret the particular investment in future. Also we sometimes invest our secrets in certain people in order to get certain secrets out of them in return(immediately).
And the final result!! sometimes we get a huge bonus or dividend out of the investment. A life long friendship maybe, or perhaps even more!! but of course, many a time it so happens that we invest wrongly or the market crashes and we are left wounded- be it financially(in the case of investments) or emotionally(in the case of secrets). but eventually we do bounce back and we usually don’t stop investing!!!
so be careful and invest wisely.